Be who you are and say what you feel. Wise words?
This is a quote I got from somewhere, can’t remember where.
Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind. To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you into something else is the greatest accomplishment
Hmmmm. Sounds good, life affirming, freeing, powerful and positive doesn’t it? All about you being you.
But are we sure about this? Is it ever OK to be completely unfiltered? Didn’t that filter evolve for a reason, maybe to keep us safe or protect social relationships?
Maybe, as with so many things there is a middle path, and it is the awareness of who we think we are and the choice to say or not to say out loud what we think, is a more helpful position.
I remember hearing Nina Conti (the ventriloquist) say once that people don’t say the first thing that comes into their head, they say the second thing.
She spoke of her experience with her Monkey, blurting out provocative statements, saying things that she would never dare to say, and strangely, saying things she (thought she) had never thought of, or would never have dreamed of saying.
The truth is that the brain chatters an awful lot, and an awful lot of what it says is just old garbage that isn’t worth sharing, so maybe everybody going about saying out loud everything that they think and feel might or might not be the best thing?
And habitually suppressing what you think and feel isn’t always going to be helpful either – I get that too And I recognise that there is a yearning within us to speak with complete openness and honesty, and to feel understood, but it is risky.
How about we work on knowing ourselves first, then think about what we want to say out loud with some consideration for the audience. This is certainly something I’ve been working on for a while.
If you would like help with this get in touch, we would be happy to hear what you have to say, no filter required.