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Thoughts-thinking-thoughts-thinking Yonks ago someone said to me (without any actual, hard evidence) that only about 1% of what the average Jo/e thinks each day is original thought.   Mind. Blown.  I LOVED this idea.  It made me laugh out loud because it fitted so well with my own direct experience.   I suppose I would class myself…

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SOS from a social media misfit

SOS from a social media misfit I’ve been trying to find a home on social media for a good while now, but so far nothing is sitting right.  I’ve done a bit of half-hearted posting on Instagram and Linkedin, but it hasn’t really done anything for me, and I don’t think I’ve done much for…

But why am I like this?

But why am I like this? “I just wish I knew why I’m like this?” I hear variations on this theme a lot, and in private practice we have the luxury of time, so we can take as long as it takes to work this out. From the outset I ask a lot of questions;…

Self-sabotage – friend or foe?

Self-sabotage – friend or foe? Behaviour can be labelled as self-sabotaging when it creates more problems than it solves, when it interferes with achievement of long-standing goals and is inconsistent with an individual’s core values.   But if you try to avoid anything that brings up difficult emotions the solution you thought you had found can…

Good Samaritan

The Good Samaritan Wasn’t Too Busy

The Good Samaritan Wasn’t Too Busy This is a longer post, but worth it I hope, if you have the time.   Keeping active has unquestionable health benefits, and keeping busy can be very compelling, but there is a significant downside to busy-busy-busy. There is a famous ‘Good Samaritan’ experiment which demonstrates this beautifully.  Question: Why…

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Values on Prescription

Values on Prescription My Values on Prescription card deck (my first ever) is now available in the shop, oh joy of joys, so I’m fleshing out the definition of values for the non ACTers out there.  It’s not a concept exclusive to Acceptance and Commitment Therapy but it is a fundamental and explicit part of…

Three month review

A Three Month Review

A Three Month Review Backalong, in my second ever blog post You find your path by walking it I wrote about using the three month trial as a way of getting to grips with learning new skills and adapting to change.  I often recommend this to clients who are feeling stuck, and my plan was to…

Keepin’ it Real

Keepin’ it Real If you’ve been trying really hard to keep your pecker up recently and you’re are finding it can be hard going there might be very good reasons for that.  Sorry to break it to y’all, but positivity isn’t the cure-all people think (hope) it is. You can try sprinkling magic positivity dust…